Learning how to love your life now
In a world where it seems like everyone is dating, married, or even having babies, being single can sometimes feel like you’re stuck in a holding pattern, just waiting for the real thing to begin. Being single while surrounded by couples might even bring on feelings of inadequacy or questioning, “Why not me?” I promise to keep it real with you in this blog. Of course, at times, it can feel weird to be single while being surrounded by friends with significant others. But you know what’s scarier than being single? Being in the wrong relationship, attaching to the wrong person, and realizing you wasted time settling for someone simply because you were afraid to be single.
What if I told you that this season of singleness isn’t just a waiting room? What if it’s actually an incredibly pivotal and purposeful time in your life? Let’s dive in.
First things first, let’s acknowledge that being single doesn’t equate to being incomplete or unlovable. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that our worth hinges on finding a significant other, but that’s simply not true. Our value isn’t determined by our relationship status. It is okay to want to be in a relationship, and even dream about who you will marry one day, but want it enough to be at your best first. Having someone else love you will not in return make you love yourself. You need to first believe that you are worthy of love because you were created by love. Nothing about you is a mistake and you were beautifully and wonderfully made. Live in that truth first.
So, what do we do with this season of singleness? How do we make the most of it? Well, for starters, let’s flip the script on waiting. Instead of seeing singleness as a time of waiting, or even lacking, let’s view it as an opportunity for growth, self-discovery, and deepening our understanding of who you were created to be, with the God-given purpose that lives within you.
Think about it. When else in your life will you have the full freedom to focus solely on yourself and your own personal development? This is the time to pursue your passions, chase after your dreams, and become the best versions of yourself. Whether it’s traveling, spending more time with friends, or pursuing passion projects, the possibilities are endless.
It truly saddens me when I talk to people who constantly say they can’t wait to have a significant other, as if their life doesn’t start until they have one. Let me be real with you, that lacking mindset will ruin your life. Your life is now, and there is more love than romantic love, that is meant to be pursued NOW. Think about how much more beautiful it will be when you find your person after being intentional with your family, cultivating fulfilling friendships, and taking the time to be the BEST version of yourself. A relationship will not fix your life or fill that void. Relationships reveal what you didn’t work through beforehand.
Don’t waste the waiting. Embrace it. Lean into it. And trust that God has a purpose and a plan for this time in your life. Just because you don’t have something yet that you want, does not mean you are lacking. Changing your perspective on this topic is truly the start of having healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life. Once you are satisfied while being single, a relationship will be able to be in its rightful place, not filling a void or fixing a problem, but simply enhancing what you already have.
xoxo, another single girl
blissfullyb 