What to Do When Your Definition of Fun Changes

To start, a huge congratulations is necessary because if your definition of fun has changed, that means you are growing. This is not a bad thing, in fact, it is proof that you are evolving as a person, and you are not who you once were.

The reality is that change is inevitable, and that can be extremely terrifying, but it can also be exhilarating at the same time. I mean seriously, think about it. How freeing is it that we, as humans, are allowed to change! As you evolve as a person, it is only natural that what brings you joy will change too, and that is okay.

After graduation, I found myself feeling extremely lost because there were so many things that I used to love that started to completely drain my energy. I started to question who I was because I attached myself to a lot of those things. For example, in college I was always on the go. I booked up my days to the absolute max with work, school, going to every sorority event, signing up for every committee, and always being that friend that said yes to any plans. I loved going to every social event, and never wanted to miss a thing. To my surprise, after college my social battery was in need of some serious recharging and staying out past 12 pm did not seem appealing to me. This was a really hard transition for me because everyone around me didn’t understand what was going on, just as much as I didn’t know myself. It wasn’t until I truly stopped, allowed myself to go through the change, and listened to my body that I was able to figure out what was life giving and what was draining to me. Once I was able to understand this for myself, the people I cared about were able to support it.  

Here are some practical steps on what to do when your definition of fun changes.

1. Give yourself grace and the space to allow change in

You do not need to be who anyone wants you to be & you are allowed to change. One of the greatest accomplishments is to be proud of who you are, even when others do not understand it or agree. That is standing in your truth, and that will always feel better than the acceptance of others. 

2. Figure out what your new definition of fun is

Document the moments when you feel the best – what you’re doing, who you are around, what it feels like. The first step to figuring this out is to take a deep dive into who you are & what is life giving/ draining to you. 

3. Recreate & Repeat

Fill your life with those things & avoid what you find out you don’t like anymore. We can’t control everything, but there is a whole lot that we can control, like situations we put ourselves in and what we say “yes” to doing.

4. Come to the realization that just because your definition of fun changes doesn’t mean everyone else’s has

You have to become okay with staying true to yourself, even if that means saying no to things other people are doing. What is for them, is not always for you. 

xoxo, B