No matter what phase of life you are currently in, there are always decisions to be made. These decisions at the moment feel like they have the ability to drastically change the trajectory of your life, whether that be for the good or bad. When thought of like this, it suddenly feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders as you stress what decision is best.
The past so many years have been filled with these decisions; where I would go to college, what I would major in, what activities/clubs I would join, who I would spend my time with, where I would move after college, and what career I would choose. The list goes on and on, and the reality for myself, and others navigating their 20’s is that it does not stop there. The real question is, how long will we all stay on this debilitating cycle that feels like we are on a hamster wheel? We are constantly running towards the next thing, yet not ever truly enjoying anything in the moment.
Instead of looking at all these decisions as permanent, what if we thought of it as the next best step?
This thought process frees you from the paralyzing feeling of having to have your whole life figured out, and allows you to just look one step ahead. It gives you the opportunity to enjoy the present until it no longer serves you, and it provides you with the option to choose what the next best step is, instead of needing every question answered.
When we allow ourselves to have this mindset, it gifts you the opportunity to be self aware, which can be one of the best gifts of all. Rather than taking on everyone else’s opinion, you will be able to know what is best for you. Sometimes that is the best next step; sitting with yourself and getting to know you. To realize your true dreams and aspirations, what is life giving to you, what your gifts and strengths are, what drains you, and what environment draws out the best version of you. When a flower doesn’t bloom, no one ever blames the flower. They blame it’s environment. Give yourself that same grace, and allow yourself to evaluate your environment to see it through the lens of what is best for you. Once you get to know yourself, there are answers that become more obvious when it comes to that next best step. To understand that there is no playbook for life, and everyone’s journey is unique to them, you can free yourself from comparison and the need to have it all figured out.
xoxo, B
blissfullyb 