Hot Girl Summer. I used to be all about this movement. A guy was wasting your time? Hot Girl Summer. You wanted a reason to glow up? Hot Girl Summer. You’re focused on having fun with your friends? Hot. Girl. Summer. I thought this was helping me to not get hurt until it I realized…
HGS didn’t have the glamour it did before. It was no longer serving me. If I’m honest, I don’t think it ever did serve me. What I was really doing was putting a bandaid on a bullet wound and hoping it would just heal. This sufficed for a little while as a distraction, but no healing was actually occurring.. I became aware of the truth that any insecurity driven “glow up” wasn’t consistent, the social media “thirst traps” were temporary high’s of confidence, and what felt like fun times really were filling a void. I was running from reality until I couldn’t escape it anymore. I decided what I really needed was a HEALING girl summer. Let me tell you, those decisions are not easy… but it’s worth it. I mean really worth it.
So what did this healing girl summer mean for me? It first started with taking a step back. I consumed my time with so many distractions, that it took me stepping back to reflect to grasp how I was feeling. This truth on top of just graduating college was very overwhelming, but I knew if I truly healed and took the necessary steps towards that goal that it would place me in a much better place for the upcoming Fall, the next chapter in life, and the rest of my 20’s. I began to create better habits like working out and eating healthier, and I filled my time with things that promoted growth. I began to go to therapy to process how my past patterns were affecting the present and how to change that for the future. I spent more time alone and took self care days. That looks different for everyone, but for me it meant going to the beach alone with a good motivational book, getting dressed up, going to get coffee, and getting my nails or hair done. I filled my mind with positivity, and altered my thinking patterns. I watched the way I thought about myself and realized how powerful the way we talk about ourselves really is. Healing for me also meant drawing closer to God and understanding that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made” with a designed and designated purpose and that I should live just like that. Healing doesn’t happen overnight, but small steps towards that goal everyday will accumulate to creating a better version of yourself, the BEST version of yourself.
So does that mean you can’t enjoy your summer? Absolutely not! If anything, it is the exact opposite. Once you truly feel better about yourself and are proud of your life, you will enjoy everything even more. You will become a better friend to others, you will have true confidence from within, and you will open the door to so many new beginnings and opportunities. Go ahead and have a Hot Girl Summer, while being HEALED. How your life feels is more important than how it looks. Take that time for yourself and watch your life flourish.
xoxo, B
blissfullyb 